Specialty Hawaiian Ceremony E Kala Mai Ritual
In Hawaii, whenever you made a big spiritual passage in life, you were called to hiuwai, a ritual cleansing or bath of your spirit in a sacred body of water. We use ocean
water now as it has always been used for purification and a bringing into balance,
also because your lives are seen as linked with and influenced by the tides and sea.
First your Minister will pour the water from the shell into and onto your own hands individually for you to wash.
This represents a complete and utter forgiveness first of yourselves. Recognizing
that all you have gone and
grown through up to this moment has been
necessary for you to stand here with the
depth, capacity, abilities and compassion
to love one another as deeply as you do...
Next your Minister will pour the water onto
your hands so that you each in turn can wash
each other's hands as a promise
that throughout your long lives and marriage
you will continue to find it in your hearts
to forgive one
another no matter what arises. Recognizing
that forgiveness is a vital conduit for your
love to flow through. Now you dry each
other's hands with the tenderness you will
show each other throughout your long lives
together. Feel the freshness of the
cleansing and we are ready to bless the
wedding rings.
Hawaiian Water Sharing Ritual
The water sharing ritual is performed
following the exchange of wedding vows and
rings. It symbolizes the renewed birth of
the couple as unified in love. The sharing
represents the continual nurturing, support,
and loving care you affirm at this time
as partners for life.The coconut represented
the tree of life for island people, the one
plant that provided food, shelter, clothing,
building and weaving material, and the
purest of water. Two coconut trees were
planted for every child that was born to
ensure they would always have enough. So it
is that your love and union is what sustains
you with all that you truly need in life.
Your Minister will break open the coconut,
like the new egg opening, as your joyous
life together is launched. The groom first
takes the opened nut and pours some on the
ground for both of your ancestors, all
teachers and guides who have brought you
to this moment, and for all those loved ones
not here in person yet truly with us in
spirit. He then gives some for the bride to
drink
and be nourished. She then takes the bowl
and gives
some to her husband to drink. She completes
the ritual by pouring the rest on the ground
for all that will come to follow and
grow from this union, children, ideas, all
creativity born from this spark. This sets
up the lineage of honoring the past,
standing fully in the present, and being
farsighted with your horizons.
Ring Blessing Ritual
As the day of the wedding approaches and
everyone arrives on island, there is a
tangible increase in the swirl of excitement
and natural nervousness. The ring blessing
ritual is designed to center the energy and
outpouring of emotion. This is a beautiful
experience that brings the families together
along with everyone in the wedding party.
It's intention is to unify your core group
and to spiritually prepare
everyone for the great passage you will be
making at the wedding. It gets everyone to
pause from the swirl and intensified
spinning before the wedding and to remember
what this is all about from a heartfelt and
appreciative perspective. In the ritual
everyone there gets a chance to speak from
their hearts to you both, to bless your
union and express what you mean to them. It
also gives you the chance to thank these
beings that have guided your lives and
shared unconditional love with you. After
everyone has had a chance to bless your
rings, The two of you do an "e kala mai"
ritual of first washing your own hands with
ocean
water to symbolize a complete forgiveness of
yourselves and acknowledgement that all you
have grown through was necessary
to bring you to this passage with the depth,
compassion and abilities you bring.
Then you wash one another's hands to promise
that you will always find forgiveness in
your hearts for each other. Then you
take one another's hands and in the midst of
this circle of closest family and friends
speak from your hearts to your beloved
anything you wish to express in preparation
for the day of union.
This ceremony has proved to be an amazing
vehicle for centering the focus and bringing
your core group together in a deeply moving
way.
Closing Hawaiian Blessing
May your union be realized as the sharing of your wholeness.
A place where your childlike spirits are
renewed, where your faith in love is restored,
where your link with the greatness of Spirit is remembered.
Let it be the haven of peace, the safe harbor for trust,
the wellspring of joy, the foundation of all you hold as true.
Ho'okahi naau, Ho'okahi mana o'lana,
Ho'okahi malamalama, Ho'okahi 'oiai'o,
Ho'okahi ola, Ho'okahi 'oli 'oli,
E kahe pu ana, e ulu pu ana,
Mai ke kumu ho'okahi mai.
One heart, one hope, one light, one truth, one life,
one joy, flowing together, growing together, from a single source.
Fill your hearts with beauty, and beauty
will come to you. Fill your hearts with love, and love
surrounds you.
Seek always the truth and it shall be yours,
for as you believe are all things manifest
unto you.
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